The premise is sound. The people doing the wrong thing are the ones who should be dealt with, not their victims. Society does have a bad tendency to treat women as if it's somehow their fault for getting raped. Things like "don't walk down a dark alley at night, you stupid bitch!" only serve to reinforce the patriarchal notion that women should have to take responsibility for preventing those bastard fucking men from committing crimes against them. Right?!
No, you simple little fucktard, that's NOT right! Like I said, in theory it sounds great and it makes perfect sense, but that's because the theory was dreamed up by simple little brains who, as usual, have made a very complicated situation way too simplistic. I mean, shit, let's just apply it to other crimes if it's such a great idea!
Burglary? Well fuck, I shouldn't have to lock my doors and possibly even pay good money to an alarm company, should I? I mean, I'M the potential victim here, why am **I** being punished?! Why is it MY responsibility to not get burgled?! What? I can't leave the box to my new 500" plasma TV sitting on the curb for trash pickup? Why the fuck not? Probably for the same reason you tell women not to wear skimpy outfits while walking alone at night, right you sexist cockbite? FUCK YOU, TEACH ASSHOLES NOT TO BURGLARIZE! It shouldn't matter
Sadly, it does matter. It matters a lot. Y'know why? Because we don't live in a perfect world. We live in a world where people are goddamn cruel sadistic assholes. Honestly, they don't NEED a reason to rape you. And no, it doesn't really matter what you wear. So those arguments are moot. Wear whatever you want, but when you're in a thong bikini prancing through the hoods of Compton or the trailer parks of Alabama at 3:30 in the morning then, I'm sorry, but you fucking are "asking for it."
Now, hold on a minute, because I really fucking hate that term. Obviously nobody is ever "asking" for something terrible (like rape) to happen to them. It's a stupid phrase, but what it refers to is very real. The idea that bad things will happen to you if you are negligent in your own security. How you dress does matter and how you BEHAVE does matter. If I run through a black neighborhood wearing Klan robes screaming "FUCK YOU, NIGGERS!" I am going to become a victim of violence. Is it my FAULT that I'm a victim of violence in that scenario? Was I "asking for it?" If you say yes, then you are VICTIM BLAMING!
Violence is never an acceptable response. Everyone is able to resolve their problems without resorting to violence. All the black people in the hood could just call the cops on me and I'd get arrested. That works. We KNOW that works. But we also know that's not what would ever happen, regardless of how well it works.
By the same token, a man who makes a choice to commit rape has lots of other choices. He could go home and jerk off. He could ask the girl out on a date and try to get in her pants the right way. But he doesn't.
See, the funny thing here is that there's a reason why it really doesn't matter what a girl is wearing, but it's the exact same reason why it does matter. Because rape is a crime of violence and control. It's a savage, brutal, primitive act. Men who rape are animals, not rational beings.
And so, on the one hand it's easy to say that it doesn't matter what a girl wears or even how she looks. Rape is only about controlling and dominating someone weaker than oneself; it isn't actually about the sex. TONS of studies have shown this to be the case. It's why you see cases about 90yo grandmas getting raped. It's why you hear about 10-ton bitches in a care facility getting raped. It's why studies show that the majority of child rapists aren't even actually pedophiles! Because sex crimes aren't really about sex or sexual attraction, they're about keeping someone weak and helpless under your thumb.
BUT, on the other hand, if I'm a shark on the prowl I'm gonna go after the animal that's bleeding. If I'm a rapist on the prowl, I'm gonna go after the bitch who looks tempting. Not always, of course. But often. And so, for the same reason (because men who rape are senseless animals), what a girl is wearing both does and does not matter!
How can this make sense? IT FUCKING DOESN'T MAKE SENSE! It doesn't HAVE to make sense because we're talking about primitive emotions here and those things don't make any goddamn sense in the first place!
So what's my brilliant solution then? It's pretty simple, really. You need to teach boys that rape is not ok AND you need to teach girls that just like little Billy was too stupid to understand the lesson on long division, and little Bobby didn't give a shit about the periodic table, there's a good chance that their friend Johnny didn't give half a fuck about the "don't rape" thing. The problem with "just teach them not to rape" is that you can't "just teach" ANYTHING!
In addition, girls should also be taught to defend themselves. If a boy tries to rape a girl, he should get his ass kicked. In addition to that, girls need to learn that going to the cops right away IS fighting back! In addition to THAT, cops and prosecutors need to learn to take this fucking shit SERIOUSLY and nail those little bastards to the wall. In addition to THAT, girls need to stop making false rape allegations so that cops and DA's actually can take this shit seriously. In addition to that....... Well, I think that's enough.
As you can see, there's a fuckton more wrong with how all this shit works than just that boys aren't taught not to rape. I mean, seriously, you think boys aren't ALREADY taught that? As a man, who is also a former boy, let me assure that Yes, we ARE taught not to rape! And just like some people are fucking monsters in every other aspect of life, there are plenty of people who simply do not give a shit and never will.
The that pisses me off about this "teach men not to rape" shit is how fucking simplistic and retarded it is. As if we can just "teach" the criminal behavior out of people. IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY, YOU FUCKING IDIOT! You can't teach the evil out of people, it's at our core. Some people are just more intelligent and therefore better able to control it. That's not really something you can teach.
Am I saying that there's simply no cure for it? Men will go on being rapists forever? No. As society evolves, intellect evolves. On the whole, we're less stupid now than we were a thousand years ago. Who knows where we'll be by the year 3015? If we still exist (against the odds), maybe we will have outgrown these things. Keep in mind that, as a species, we are still only in early adolescense. We haven't "grown up" yet, no matter how much we may wish to see ourselves that way. Rape, molestation, and other such primitive acts of barbarism may very well fade away with time and the maturing of our species, but that's a gigantic cultural paradigm shift that will take time. Until then, tell your daughter to cover her fucking tits in public, asshole!
The bottom line is this: Screeching that "you should teach men not to rape, I'll dress as 'slutty' as I want!" is like saying "I'll leave my car door open with the keys in the ignition, you should teach men not to steal cars!" In a perfect world, that makes perfect sense. In THIS world, it's stupid as hell. Abdicating responsibility for your own security and safety IS "asking for" trouble. Men should absolutely be held accountable for their wrong-doing and women absolutely should not shoulder any of the blame for when they are victimized. At the same time, women shouldn't be doing things they know to be dangerous and daring fate to bring them harm. Yes, if the man rapes you, you've proven a point. You're right and he's wrong. You have a moral victory and you couldn't be more right. But, you just got fucking raped, you dumbass! Was that worth it? To make a fucking social point? I don't think so, and I don't think many women really do either.