Moral indignation: jealousy with a halo.
-H. G. Wells
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Decisionally Challenged

Dear Galen

I am a freshman in High School. Since like the last few weeks or so, I've noticed this girl has been really flirting with me and stuff. Other people have told me that she really really likes me and just today I heard that she's gonna ask me to go with her very soon.

The problem is that this girl is handicapped. Her legs and spine are messed up or something so she has to use crutches to walk (and she kinda has that slurred talk like a retard, but not bad or nothing). She's a nice girl and kinda pretty and all that, but if I go out with a girl like that I'll never have any chance of ever even HAVING a rep (much less ruining it).

I don't wanna have to hurt the poor girl, but my friends are already teasing me about her enough as it is! If I go with her, that's it! What should I do?

-Decisionally Challenged

Dear DC

Ok, for the record, this response is completely serious.

Dude, when I was in the 6th grade, I had this exact same thing happen to me. Out on the playground one day, some girls just came up to me and told me that the handicapped girl wanted to talk to me. So, I went with them and met up with her. Right there, in front of practically everybody, she told me that she was in love with me and wanted to be my girlfriend.

Now, I was by no means as cruel as most 12 year old boys are, but I still reacted as any 6th grader would. I told her no and walked away. Well, it was more complicated than that, really. I had to get away from the circle of onlookers who had gathered to watch everything (guess I was the last to know - typical). But, while I'm walking away from this girl (who had started crying the moment I turned her down), I could hear her crying and yelling after me that she loved me...

That sound and those words haunt me to this day, 13 years later. I was a selfish fucking little bastard who cared way too damn much about what people would think of me for going with a "retarded girl" (she wasn't actually retarded, AFAIK). If I had that moment to live over again, I'd say "yes" without a second thought. She was a sweet girl who probably never got to be with any of the "normal" guys she cared about because most "normal" guys are fucking assholes like I was. My heart breaks for her when I remember that day and I just want to reach back through time and bitch-slap my 12yo self!

So, my advice to you, DC, is to decide whether or not YOU like this girl or, even if you don't like her, whether or not you COULD. If there's a chance that there could be something there, then give it a chance (give HER a chance)! Don't be a selfish fucking prick! Your "rep" isn't worth shit and neither are you if you turn that girl down JUST because she's handicapped!

Hating You,

P.S. - Not that there's much chance of her reading this but...

To Lisa Little: I'm sorry